Attachment and attention-seeking behaviours in cats are generally normal, but only to a certain extent. While many cats like to maintain some independence, others can become overly attached to their owners. This may signal underlying issues such as stress, insecurity, or needs that have not been met. When these behaviours become excessive, they can lead to significant distress for both the cat and their family.

Unlike dogs, cats often express attachment in more subtle ways, which can sometimes be mistaken for aloofness or independence. Although they seem to be more independent, many cats still form deep emotional bonds with their humans. Noticing stress or behavioural issues in cats can therefore be challenging, as the signs may not become obvious until the symptoms are more severe. But behavioural problems are common and can quickly escalate if not addressed properly. It’s important to seek professional help promptly if your cat develops any changes in their behaviour.

Why does my cat have attachment and attention-seeking behaviour?

Attachment and attention-seeking behaviours are normal to a certain extent. Cats can be very social animals and they require interaction and attention. However, these behaviours can become exaggerated and problematic.

Common reasons why cats exhibit exaggerated attention-seeking behaviour include:

• Boredom: not enough exercise, mental stimulation or social interaction

• Personality and breed: some cats are more people-oriented than others

• Learned behaviour from their human: these behaviours were previously rewarded with increased attention 

• Fear or anxiety: can be related to not being properly socialised or previous trauma

• Stress: due to a change in routine or environment, such as moving home

• If they are left alone regularly for extended periods

• Illness: cats may seek human comfort if they are unwell

• Hormonal: Unspayed female cats can be more attention-seeking when in heat

There are many types of behavioural abnormalities in cats, and they can often be complex to treat. Unfortunately, these problems can worsen quickly, especially if not treated appropriately. 

We recommend speaking to a vet as soon as possible if your cat starts exhibiting behavioural abnormalities. Our Joii vets are available 24 hours a day for advice and can refer you to our in-app behaviourist. 

What are the signs of attachment and attention-seeking behaviour in cats?

Signs of attachment include:

• Following you around the house and lying down near where you are

• Greeting you at the door

• Rubbing themselves against you

• Purring when around you

• Kneading your lap or blanket

• Wanting to sleep near or on you

• Bring you gifts
  

Signs of attention-seeking include:

• Excessive vocalising 

• Pawing or nudging you

• Aggression: biting or scratching

• Knocking things over

• Jumping on items so they are at your eye level

• Scratching furniture or carpets

• Inappropriate toileting 

What to do if your cat is showing signs of attachment and attention-seeking behaviour

There are several ways to help if your cat starts showing signs of excessive attachment and attention-seeking behaviours:

• Keep their routine and environment as consistent as possible.

• Ensure their needs are being met; this includes having a clean litter box in a quiet area. They need access to fresh water and regular meals of a balanced diet. Multi-cat households need one resource per cat plus one extra to avoid conflict and stress.

• See a vet. Medical issues such as pain can often cause or worsen abnormal behaviour. It’s important to investigate if there are underlying medical problems.

• Make sure they are getting enough physical exercise. This depends on your cat’s age, breed and health. They also need places to climb and at least one scratching post to provide enrichment.

• Increase mental stimulation, especially for indoor cats: activities like interactive puzzle games and chase toys such as feather wands.

• Increase social interaction: spend time interacting with your cat daily and try to keep these interactions consistent in duration and timing. Engage in activities that your cat enjoys, such as grooming, petting, or playing.

• Ensure your cat has a safe space to hide (somewhere warm and up high is ideal). Calming supplements and pheromone plug-ins can help them feel safer. 

• Focus on positive reinforcement when your cat is doing something you want them to do. Rewarding good behaviour will teach them the best ways to get your attention. 
  

Behavioural problems in cats typically do not have quick and easy solutions. They require time, patience, and perseverance. Attachment and attention-seeking behaviours can become distressing for both the cat and their owner. It’s recommended to consult a behaviourist before reaching this stage.

When looking for a behaviourist, it’s important to find someone suitably qualified who uses ethical and up-to-date techniques. Your vet will also be able to help you find a suitable behaviourist; many only work with referrals. For more information about behaviour specialists, please refer to the following organisation:

• ABTC (Animal Behaviour and Training Council): a regulatory body that sets and maintains standards for the profession and has a national register for appropriately qualified animal trainers and behaviourists.

What not to do if your cat shows attachment and attention-seeking behaviour 

• Avoid interacting with your cat when they exhibit nuisance behaviours. This can be difficult, and it is only appropriate if you are completely certain that your cat's needs are being met. Remember to reward them when the behaviour stops.

• If the behaviour poses a safety risk (such as aggression), it’s best to remove yourself from the situation.

• Do not punish your cat when they display these behaviours, as this will only provide them with attention and may escalate the behaviour.

• Do not rely solely on supplements or pheromones to resolve the issue. While calming supplements and pheromones can help soothe your cat, they should be incorporated into a comprehensive behaviour modification plan.

When is attachment and attention-seeking behaviour normal in cats?

Cats can be quite social creatures; so many attachment behaviours are actually a normal aspect of their bond with humans. It’s perfectly natural for them to follow you around, seek interactions, and express happiness when you return home.

However, they should also be capable of relaxing and managing when you're not present. If your cat displays signs of distress or panic during separations, it may indicate that they have become overly attached. Achieving a healthy balance of affection and independence is essential for ensuring your cat feels secure and comfortable without relying excessively on your presence.

If your cat exhibits signs of excessive attachment, it’s advisable to consult a behaviourist as soon as possible.

When to worry about attachment and attention-seeking behaviour in cats

If your cat gets distressed when they are left alone or is starting to show signs of excessive attachment, it’s best to speak to a behaviourist as soon as possible. 

Call us and speak to one of our Joii vets if you have any concerns about your cat’s behaviour. They will be able to give you helpful tips and direct you on the next best steps to take.