Attachment and attention-seeking behaviours in dogs
Why does my dog
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When is it normal
When to worry
Attachment and attention-seeking behaviours in dogs
Attachment and attention-seeking behaviours in dogs are normal and common behaviours that develop as a survival mechanism at birth. However, if a dog becomes overly attached to their human, they can develop separation issues. They may then show excessive attention-seeking behaviours before and after separation. The 2023 Paw Report states that 13% of owners in the UK (1.4 million dogs) reported their dog to be showing signs of distress when left alone.
When you bring a dog into your home, you become their family. A special bond is formed through regular interaction, affection and care. They rely on you for the attention they need, and they find ways to get that. However, attachment and attention-seeking behaviour can become exaggerated, and this can lead to problems. Behaviour problems are common in dogs and can quickly worsen if not treated appropriately. It can lead to severe distress not only for the dog but also for their family. It’s important to seek professional help as soon as possible if your dog develops behavioural problems.
Why does my dog have attachment and attention-seeking behaviour?
Attachment and attention-seeking behaviours stem from normal behaviour in puppies. Dogs develop these behaviours as they rely on care from their mothers when they are young. However, these behaviours can become exaggerated and problematic.
Common reasons why dogs exhibit exaggerated attention-seeking behaviour include:
Boredom: not enough exercise, mental stimulation or social interaction
Learned behaviour from their human: these behaviours were previously rewarded with increased attention
Fear or anxiety: can be related to not being properly socialised or previous trauma
If they are left alone regularly for extended periods
There are many different types of behavioural abnormalities in dogs and they can often be complex to treat. Unfortunately, these problems can worsen quickly and sometimes even turn into aggression, especially if not treated appropriately.
We recommend speaking to a vet as soon as possible if your dog starts showing behavioural abnormalities. Our Joii vets are available 24 hours a day for advice and can refer you to our in-app behaviourist.
What are the signs of attachment and attention-seeking behaviour in dogs?
Signs of attachment include:
Following their owner around constantly
Reluctance to explore alone
Excited greetings: jumping, wagging their tail, and vocalising
Physical contact: leaning on or resting their head on their human
Needing to sleep near their human
Distress when left alone (separation anxiety)
Signs of attention-seeking include:
Barking and other vocalising (whining or crying)
Pawing or nudging
Pulling at clothes or nipping
Jumping up
Stealing items
Destructive behaviour, including inappropriate toileting
What to do if your dog is showing signs of attachment and attention-seeking behaviour
There are several ways to help if your dog starts showing signs of excessive attachment and attention-seeking behaviours:
Try to keep a consistent daily routine for your dog.
See a vet. Medical issues such as pain can often cause or worsen abnormal behaviour. It’s important to investigate if there are underlying medical problems.
Make sure they are getting enough physical exercise. This depends on your dog's age, breed and health. In general, most adult dogs need at least 2 walks every day, for at least 1 to 2 hours. Working breeds usually need more than this.
Increase mental stimulation. This is needed in addition to physical exercise. It includes activities like sniffing, interactive puzzle games, and training or obedience sessions.
Create a cosy den area for your dog to relax and learn to settle. Put their favourite bedding, treats, and toys in this area, such as food-stuffed Kongs.
Allow your dog to have undisturbed sleep and calm time throughout the day. A behaviourist can help you teach them to settle on their own and become less reliant on you being nearby.
Increase their social interaction: if your dog is left alone for long periods during the day, consider getting a dog walker or taking them to daycare.
Provide enrichment activities at times when the behaviour is more likely. For example, if your dog starts to bark at you whenever you take a phone call, give them a stuffed Kong or lick mat just before the call starts.
Focus on positive reinforcement when your dog is doing something you want. Rewarding good behaviour will teach them the best ways to get your attention.
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Behavioural problems in dogs are not usually a quick and easy fix. It takes time, patience and perseverance. Attachment and attention-seeking behaviours can become distressing for both the dog and their human. It’s best to speak to a behaviourist before it gets to this stage.
When looking for a behaviourist, it’s important to find someone suitably qualified who uses ethical and up-to-date techniques. Your vet will also be able to help you find a suitable behaviourist; many only work with referrals. For more information about behaviour specialists, please refer to the following organisation:
ABTC (Animal Behaviour and Training Council) is a regulatory body that sets and maintains standards for the profession and has a national register for appropriately qualified animal trainers and behaviourists.
What not to do if your dog shows attachment and attention-seeking behaviour
Do not interact with your dog when they are showing nuisance behaviour. This can be challenging and is only appropriate to do if you are 100% sure your dog's needs are being met. And it’s important to reward them when the behaviour stops.
If it is not safe to ignore this behaviour (nipping, etc.), remove your dog from the situation.
Do not punish your dog (shout or tell them off) when they are showing the behaviour. This is giving them attention and the behaviour may worsen.
Do not use supplements or pheromones alone and expect the problem to improve. While calming supplements and pheromones can help naturally calm your dog, they should be used alongside a behaviour modification plan.
When is attachment and attention-seeking behaviour normal in dogs?
Dogs are naturally social animals, so many attachment behaviours are actually a normal part of the bond with their human. Dogs like to feel included, so it’s completely normal for them to follow you around, enjoy interactions, and be happy to see you when you return. However, they should also be able to relax and cope when you are not around. If they show signs of distress or panic when they are separated from you, then they have become overly attached.
If your dog shows signs of being overly attached, it’s best to speak to a behaviourist as soon as possible.
When to worry about attachment and attention-seeking behaviour in dogs
If your dog gets distressed when they are left alone or is starting to show signs of excessive attachment, it’s best to speak to a behaviourist as soon as possible.
Call us and speak to one of our Joii vets if you have any concerns about your dog’s behaviour. They will be able to give you helpful tips and direct you on the next best steps to take.
